- Question: hi :) i saw u reblogged that ray rice make up tutorial video and i wanted to ask what are your views on the ray rice thing in general and how people are saying she deserved it cause she started the assault, and how people are using this against feminists by saying how we cry for equality and how we scream men and women are equal yet still the fact that she hit him is not as big an issue as the fact that he hit her(regardless of the fact he knocked her out). i'm just curious on your stance...1/2 - preachin-sterek
Cause I believe in feminism and am new to it but willing to learn and this issue has made me so confused, and you seem well educated on topics like this so I thought your input would clear up a few things in my head
I never saw the Ray Rice thing itself, but the make up tutorial was very on point about the cover up, how sports stars in the US get away, sometimes literally, with murder. So I don’t know if she hit him, or he hit her, but I know the issue, as most people pointed out was that he was told to fall on his sword because it was filmed. Ie if it wasn’t filmed he would have walked.
Feminism is the belief that women, any woman, regardless of colour or trans status, is equal to men, and that men are equal to women, not superior, not inferior, but equal.
Now let’s take that Ray Rice thing and invert it, we’ll flip it over so you can see how it works
she punched him and knocked him out cold. As a big mean footballer the chances are he wouldn’t tell anyone, because it would mean impairing his ego and his team mates would laugh at him, his status as an alpha male would be invalidated and so he would never report it. So she’d hit him again, after all she got away with it once
his reasons for not reporting her are just as valid as the woman who is scared to leave, they might seem alien and rather infantile to us but they’re his reasons and they’re valid, in his head he would see the end of his career, how he would be mocked on jimmy fallon and the actual problem, that she, in this hypothetical situation, was hitting him, would be swept under the carpet.
The same stigma that women are weak says men are strong, and we joke that the most fragile substance on earth is the male ego, but it’s the price of the patriarchal misogyny. Just as women are made out to be inferior men are given an unrealistic perch to fall from, and scared they will fall they lash out in what they consider “man approved” ways, like violence.
Was he wrong to hit her? absolutely. Was she wrong to hit him? absolutely. No one should be hitting anyone! It’s felony assault either way, but the fact the government sweeps it under the carpet and calls it domestic abuse is a huge thing that feminism has been trying to get rid of for decades.
Did you know one of the first things that feminism ever did, around the time of the suffrage movement, was bring in temperance? they didn’t do it because drink was evil or whatever reason male history wants to tell you, but because they discovered that women were more likely to be beaten by their husbands if the men were drunk, so, unable at the time to set up shelters, although there is evidence in some places of a sort of underground railroad to get battered women out, they managed to group together and ban drink.
And yes, men can be feminists, one of the foremost feminist thinkers of the forties, who inspired a lot of modern feminists was William Moulton Marston who also created Wonder Woman and the polygraph. And he’s the one I can think of offhand, but Shakespeare was certainly a feminist, you only have to see the strong amazing women in his plays whose characters are as rich as the men. Gene Roddenberry was a feminist.
However a century or so of male propaganda has been telling men that they are being undermined by strong women, (they believed this before, don’t be under any illusion, get a queen on the throne and watch her parliament put in laws against women) and that given the chance women will keep them underfoot as slaves (really?) and women will rule the world. The fact it sounds nonsensical is because it is. But women see part of this, that feminists are men haters (we’re not) that we’re militant lesbians (might be, none of their business regardless) that we want to cut their balls off just because. It’s never just because, there’s usually a reason.
Feminists want to be treated the same as men, that’s it, and they want men to be treated the same as then, possibly a better word would be equalist because most feminists also want equal rights for racial minorities, refugees, sexual minorities etc. They sure as hell don’t want someone to be punched in an elevator and their assailant to be rapped on the knuckles because he got filmed.
Did you know that more men are abused by their wives or girlfriends yearly then women are by their boyfriends or husbands. I wrote a paper about it in social problems two years ago, its upsetting how little they know about abused men.
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Sterek body swap :B
How much do I want this episode?
Let me tell you why.
Point A) Hoechlin being bubbly and spaz-tastic and smiling and things. Because even though Stiles is a little angst-muffin himself, you know he’d be over the moon to play around in Derek for a while. yeah, I know how that sounds. Let it go. And Hoechlin would be freaking adorable.
Point B) Seeing O’Brien do more shit. And different shit.
Point C) O’Brien’s eyebrows used for nefarious purposes is a thing I would like.
Point D) interesting knowledge about the way they see themselves/see each other. where they carry tension, where they hurt. What healing feels like. What never healing feels like. Where the scars are hidden.
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Hey lets play a game! Instead of where’s waldo, how about where’s Danny?